Beautiful Girls but Low Self-Esteem

This 20-year old girl that I know has become a chauffeur for her boyfriend and foots the bill for everything. She got annoyed at her brother and mother because they both commented at different times on her folly. She has become this boy's hairdresser - washing and braiding his hair every 2-weeks.

For half-a-year, she was cooking and feeding him using money from her dad as she was also feeding him. The menu has to be super size me fat laden recipes at his request and she complies. Now she's having problems with acne something that she didn't experience in her teenage years.

Every trip that she plans, she has to pay for and supply the transportation - her father's car has become the taxi. She recognizes that she's making a big mistake but says that she should be allowed to make her own mistakes. Her brother called her Benson so she's not done his hair at the house in recent weeks - suspect this may be one problem and stress that she's having with him now.

She's known to criticize other girlfriends about their choices in men and can see the folly in their behavior but can't seem to see her own misgivings. She's a tall, beautiful girl that was raised to be a strong woman but has become a wimp with low self-esteem issues that she's blaming on her mother and brother.

Her father doesn't want to be the "bad guy" so he tolerates everything that she does without question. He quickly points to his mistake of getting married at 19-years old and says that he does not cling. As an outsider, it seems that he would rather her continue on the path and hopefully get pregnant so he can shed her as his only remaining baggage.

Compulsive Liars

My husband lives by his own personal motto that he doesn't get mad, he gets even. He is vindictive and spiteful. He takes everything very personal. I notice that since he returned from his Caribbean trip on July 25th that he has 3-alarm times set on his cell phone.

He purposefully has it in the bed beside our heads so that I'm to be awakened at around 4:00 a.m. This means that I fall back into a deeper sleep when the next alarm sounds and I'm not likely to hear which I don't since I'm often working late and going to bed at around 3:00 a.m.

Over the years, he's worked on convincing our daughter that I love my biological son more than I love her. She has now developed this vicious, deep-rooted jealousy that borders on hated for her brother and me. In a recent argument, he's now telling me that I should talk one-on-one with her to repair our relationship.

Meanwhile, this is the first time that I am hearing that we had a relationship that needed to be repaired because when I was on a Caribbean island for 7-months all she would be doing is complaining about him and asking when I would be coming home 'cause he's driving her crazy. Now that I am back three months later, the problem is now me.

I am worried that by creating a problem that doesn't exist, he could be altering her personality and driving her crazy but I am no Dr. Phil. Also, I realize that stress can bring on a lot of conditions that would otherwise not even be a factor in health so I am practicing the art of tuning out.